SINGLEHOOD is Fertile Ground: It’s All About First Loving YOU!

Why do so many of us view being single as a bad thing?

In today’s society, people are just so independent and are afraid of commitments. Plus, once you finally rebound from heartbreak, it takes a lot of courage to open up and love from your heart again. But THE TRUTH STILL REMAINS: We all want someone to call our own; to curl up with at night and wake up to the next morning, more often than not.  

To all the singles out there, you are not alone in your desire to be in a healthy, harmonious and loving relationship. We’ve all been there. But I’ve got good news for you: Singlehood is fertile ground! It is an opportunity for you to learn how to love yourself first.

As a single person, why should you love yourself first?


You want to know how to love and take good care of yourself before loving and caring for  anything or anyone else.  Why? Because that is how you show others how to love you back.

What are some ways that you can love yourself in the fertile ground of singlehood?

First, plant the seeds. What does planting the seeds mean?

♥ Cherishing Your Time – Cherish the time and opportunities that you have while you are single. Make the most out of them. Spend quiet time alone self-reflecting and meditating.

♥ Identifying Your Needs and Wants – Revisit your values. Look at what’s truly important to you and identify what your personal needs and wants are for yourself and from an ideal partner.

♥ Creating Your Vision – If there were no considerations, what would your love life look like? Create that image in your mind. That’s where it all starts.

Second, water the seeds. What does watering the seeds mean?

♥ Taking Time to Heal – Most of the times, our past dictates our future. Completing and letting go of the past will help you live more in the present.

♥ Dating Yourself – Every now and then, take yourself out for a dinner. Go get a massage, watch a movie, or do other things that you really enjoy.

♥ Taking Care of Yourself – When we get into a relationship, we usually let ourselves go. Practice treating yourself like royalty. This includes eating well and exercising.  

Oftentimes, once we are in a new relationship, we end up forgetting who we were before we got into that relationship. Sadly, we become a different person than the one our partner was attracted to in the beginning. Sure we grow older and some changes are inevitable. However, taking GOOD care of ourselves must never be overlooked, especially when you are single. Remember that singlehood is fertile ground.

Remember that any planting that is done for any wonderful tree or beautiful flower requires some dirt and sunlight. So take all of your life experiences with relationships -the bad and the good- and use them as tools to be, do and have a better one the next time. Love yourself first. Plant the seeds and water them.

When you love yourself first, you will surely blossom into being ready for a healthy, harmonious and loving relationship!

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