Identifying The Toxicity In A Relationship

Can you spot if it’s toxic in your romantic relationship? Whether you are married, in a committed relationship for the long or short haul, or simply dating, there is no room for toxicity in a relationship. Why? Because toxicity serves like a poison and any healthy and good relationship has no space or place for toxicity.  

Toxicity robs us from having a harmonious relationship. It makes relationships unhealthy, as it blocks and blinds us in giving and receiving love unconditionally. 

Hopefully, you are not in a toxic relationship. But how can you identify if you are?

Here are three indicators that will let you know if your relationship is toxic:

1. It feels like you’re on a rollercoaster.

If you feel like your experience in your relationship is like being on a roller coaster, your seat belt is buckled and you cannot get off, then it is likely there is something not quite right in the relationship. In other words, everything is wonderful sometimes, then you feel so bad at other times. Yes, the frequent peaks and valleys or highs and lows in a relationship could be an indicator that there is toxicity in your relationship.

2. You are always comparing/being compared.

While others may share your name, there is no other person on the planet who is like you because God created us each uniquely. This is the reason why comparison has no place in a healthy relationship. Comparing or being compared to either exes or other family members, especially when it serves as a reminder of some unhealthy behaviors, is an indicator of a toxic relationship. This is because we attract to us things that we consider to be normal even when it may have been dysfunctional or harmful. For example, if you start to notice that the woman or man you’re in a relationship with reminds you of a parent that used to be physically abusive or even abused alcohol or something, this should raise a red flag for you that perhaps there is some toxicity in your relationship.  

3. Both of you are moving in two different directions.

A relationship is a creation. Couples have to create their relationship together. A couple should have a goal that is common and going in the same direction. Can you imagine telling a GPS to go to a certain address, while your partner tells it to go to a different place? The GPS simply would not work. Relationships work in that same way.

Knowing how to spot toxicity in a relationship can save you time, health and sanity. Toxicity has a way of creeping in like a venom. If you do not have, for lack of a better word, a watchdog looking out for it.

Let me help you! Not only can I help you spot the toxicity in your relationship, but I have the tools to help you remove it from your relationship. In that way, you and your partner can get back to how you fell in love with each other in the first place.

“Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

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