Montrella’s Movie of the Month – A Star is Born

Did you catch the Oscars last week? A Star is Born, got some love by winning Best Original Song for “Shallow.” Much deserved.

As a therapist and couple’s coach, I have to tell you that watching these kinds of romance films, or in this case, dramatic romance film, always leave me scratching my head. Not to be a know-it-all, but man! Could these dire situations be easily avoided with some basic therapy…

So for fun (hear that, FUN) I’d like to tear this movie apart on a basic level. Laughter is often the best medicine, so here we go!

Warning: Contains spoilers.

 A Star is Born

Normally, a nice love story goes a little something like this.

     ♥ Boy meets girl
     ♥ They fall in love – yay!
     ♥ Boy loses girl – no!
     ♥ Boy has to work on himself
     ♥ Boy gets girl back

And they lived Happily. Let’s see how A Star is Born holds up…

     ♥ Boy meets girl – He’s a raging alcoholic, but ✅
     ♥ They fall in love  ✅
     ♥ Boy loses girl – He wets himself onstage (alcoholism making a callback)  ✅
     ♥ Boy gets girl back – he goes to rehab  ✅

And they lived happily… Hold up.

     ♥ Then girl’s jerk-face manager says something mean
     ♥ Boy kills himself
     ♥ Girl gets a solo at the end

Uh. They were so close to making it!

With a little therapy, these two love birds could be nice and happy in their winter home right now. Here’s how this situation could have been solved – every step of the way.

Boy meets girl – He’s a raging alcoholic

Girl: Hey, you’re really cute but I noticed you drink a lot. Mind if we chill out on the alcohol?

Boy: Wow, I really appreciate your honesty. Unfortunately, this is an addiction I can’t control.

Girl: Gotcha. Here’s a list of programs you could get into. They just happen to be in my pocket. Wanna be friends while you figure all this out?

Boy: I’d like that. Thanks.

        MOVIE ENDS. Everyone lives.

They fall in love

Girl: I love you so much, and isn’t it great how you’re not seeing double because of all the booze?

Boy: Oh yeah. Now that I’ve taken a year to work on my issues, I’m able to be completely available.

Girl: Want to write some music together?

Boy: Sure! I’m emotionally prepared to do that.

        MOVIE ENDS. Everyone lives.

Boy loses girl

Girl: Wow, I really wish I would have asked you to handle your alcoholism right now. You’ve wet yourself in front of the entire world. I’m off to Al-Anon.

Boy: I’ll go work on myself and meet you back here in 6 months.

Boy gets girl back

*Knock, knock!

Boy: Hey babe, I’m back!

Girl: I’ve waited for you! Are you still an alcoholic?

Boy: I’ll always be an alcoholic, but now I have tools to keep me from drinking.

Girl: Yay!

        MOVIE ENDS. Everyone lives.

Girl’s jerk-face manager says something mean

Boy: (to the manager) That hurt my feelings. And because communication is important, I’m going to sit down with my wife and have a conversation about it.

        MOVIE ENDS. Everyone lives.

So, that’s it! At the end of the day, a little communication skills and therapy like those we offer at Affinity Health Affairs, LLC can help couples avoid dramatic endings to what could have otherwise been a long-lasting romance. Although can any of us blame Lady Gaga? Bradley Cooper would be hard to say no to. I might be a therapist and life coach, but I’m still a woman.

How do you think the story should go? Or better yet, what is your favorite romance movie that ever won an Oscar? It might become our next Movie of the Month. Let me know in the comments! 

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